Tuesday, March 08, 2016

Returning to an Old Love, or You Down with O(ld) PP?

Many of us love reunion romance stories. Tales of previous lovers getting back together as wiser and more seasoned adults who now know what they want and are better able to care for a precious love that was previously wasted on their younger selves. These stories are beautiful and laced with sweet (and hot!) memories of how things were at the beginning. When they couldn't keep their hands off each other and fumbled in unfamiliar bedrooms or the back seats of cars to find out what made the other person feel good. Back when they were just learning about each other and also about themselves.

But what about having these types of romances in real life? Does it make sense to go backward, and is it possible to create a new beginning from old materials?

*Poster from G, an under-rated film about the pleasures and perils of O.P.P.*

From my own experience, old love is the ultimate temptation. Especially old love that “ended” on bittersweet terms. Imagine…there's someone out there in the world who actually knows you. They know your long term goals, the food you always order at your favorite restaurant, what makes you moan. They know your family is crazy. They are fully aware of all your faults and foibles and love you still. Sometimes that’s just as exciting as a one night stand in a shadowy bedroom above a nightclub in Ibiza, and much more satisfying.

Returning to a relationship like this can have all the appeal of visiting a well-loved foreign city. A city where you are familiar with all its beautiful corners and hidden charms, its shadows and its monuments that glitter irresistibly under summer sunlight. No one else knows this city like you do, no one could ever appreciate it and love it the way you can. And with this revisiting, maybe you’re even aware of the missteps you took that led to your exile from this beloved place. But is it a good idea to revisit this familiar city when the rest of the world is such a vast and infinitely alluring place?

There’s no “one size fits all” answer to this question. There are so many factors to consider when the siren song of old love calls. Did you break up with your love for a good reason with selective amnesia threatening to lead you down the exact same path again? Or is this the chance to fully appreciate and treasure a more mature love that has stood the test of time and given you the chance to see what's out there and to reject those inferior things for the relationship you once had with someone you've never been able to get off your mind? Or are you just lonely and looking for any warm body? Questions to seriously consider.

Tell me, what do you think? Is O.P.P. for you, or not?

Born in Jamaica, Lindsay Evans currently lives and writes in Atlanta, GA. A writer of sensual love stories and decadent erotica, she loves good food and romance and would happily travel to the ends of the earth for both. Find out more at www.LindsayEvansWrites.com. Her latest novel, Untamed Love, is out now.

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