Thursday, March 06, 2008

Thursday Talk-Time - Who Needs Therapy?



There are definitely some benefits to being a writer -as our guest, author Ann Roth points out. Welcome to the Pink Heart Society, Ann!


I'm a writer- who needs therapy?

When I was about 14, I was a serious student in several honors classes. In homeroom I sat near a girl from the popular crowd. Let's call her Diane. For some reason Diane carried my picture in her wallet. I was thrilled. Until I saw what she'd written across the bottom: Persimmon. At the time I didn't know what a persimmon was. A sour fruit, a friend said. Years later I learned that persimmons are actually sweet and quite tasty. But at the time...

Diane thought I was sour? I was devastated. Silly as it seems now, I carried that pejorative image with me for years, berating myself for my lack of humor when I thought I was too serious. Never mind that I sometimes laughed until I cried and often made my friends smile.

Then there was Larry, a man I worked with. I'd just earned my MBA and had landed a job in the finance department of a bank. Larry was one of those guys who smile while they sling cutting remarks your way and do what they can to make you feel inferior. Because I was no longer a 14-year-old girl, I refused to put up with Larry's b.s. My work proved him wrong, and several times I told him to shove it. Which shocked and even silenced him for a day or two. Still, the man and his comments rankled, and I spent more than a few sleepless nights, wondering if maybe he was right.

I'm sure everyone can relate. There isn't a person among us who hasn't been insulted or hurt and emotionally scarred by someone.

Where is that biach Diane now? What's mean Larry doing these days? Who knows, but you can bet she got hers and he got his-at least in my novels. When you're a writer, you control the world you create. Some characters triumph, and others fail. I don't mind sharing that both Diane and Larry have suffered fictionally for the pain they caused me. Sure it's all made up, but in dealing with them through my writing, I was able to work through my hurt and frustration and move on.

I think that's pretty darned cool.

Until later,

Ann




Ann's current release, THE PILOT'S WOMAN, is a Romantic Times TOP PICK!


To find out more about Ann and her books, visit her site at http://www.annroth.net/.



Thanks for being with us, Ann!

7 comments:

  1. Ann, The really great thing about being a writer, is that you can get back at all those people, who made you feel bad, without them ever knowing it. Sweet Revenge!

    Your readers think that you are wonderful, and that's all that really counts. Kudos to you, on being a Romantic Times Top Pick.
    Madeline:)

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  2. Thanks for the kudos, Madeline. :-).

    I do love that sweet revenge, too. But I'm not always out for revenge. Sometimes I'm just writing the story of my heart.

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  3. You know those people were just totally insecure and probably a little intimidated by you! Women can handle anything with grace and class if we just believe in ourselves!!!

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  4. Stephanie- I don't want to intimidate anyone, ever. But it's certainly food for thought.

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  5. Hi Ann -- to me, writing is therapy because you can explore your own inner feelings and motivation for action, while your exposing the same things for your characters to readers. When effective, an author can reach right into a reader's heart and tug on it -- as you do so well in your books! :)

    Love,
    Jennifer

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  6. Jennifer- That's beautiful. Thank you for your comments.

    Katie- Writing is definitely insightful. Speaking for myself, writers often choose subjects or themes they want or need to explore. And to deal with the meanies in their lives. :-)

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