I am a big believer in breaking out of comfort zones. Children do it all the time. They instinctively know that to grow and mature, they have to push boundaries. I’m not sure why or how or when, but somehow, we forget how to push as we get older. Instead, many of us settle. Grow complacent instead of continuing to grow up. Take the easy route instead of the rocky path.
I know I was a ‘settler’—at least for a time. Hard to believe if you know me. What changed me? What made me realize the rut was growing deeper?
Seriously. I was working in a call center for a cruise line and one of my cube-mates brought in a stack of Harlequins to read when the phones weren’t ringing.
I was hooked. And from that little change (I’d always read SF or fantasy—not romance) my boundaries expanded. Sure, I fought it. Romance novels? At first, I was almost embarrassed. But it was too late to go back to who I’d been. I’d found something I loved and decided that I wasn’t going to be apologetic about it. Instead, I was going to embrace it.
And from that tiny change in perception and habit, I decided to take up writing again. Seven short years later I am published with Silhouette. And a category romance novel was the catalyst.
Which is probably one of the reason I love them.
And write them. For me, my heroes and heroines mirror my need (the human need, really) to take risk. To change. Take the Alpha Male for example...Mmmmm, alpha men. They are so HAWT! Indiana Jones. Roarke. My own Zach Holiday. Sigh. I want them! But I digress—
Change is forced when the Alpha Male realizes that the world he lives in can’t include the woman he loves. What does he do? He takes charge and makes changes to himself and/or his world.
Okay, it’s not as easy as that. He fights it. A lot. They are Alpha, after all, not fuzzy kittens. It’s not like they’re going to say, “Yay—change!” Nope, they push back. And lose. And then win by losing.
Don’t you love that part?
And it all comes down to taking a chance and following the path of MOST resistance.
Today, my challenge to you as readers—hell, as people—is to do the same. Let go of the comfortable and forge ahead into the unknown. It might be a hike through an unknown jungle. It might be getting rid of the haircut you’ve had for twenty years (you know who you are).
But I challenge you to take that chance. Get out of the rut before it get’s any deeper and see what’s around the next bend.
Sharron is giving away a copy of her new book “Breathless” to a random comment leaver, so let her know here and now what you do to get out of a rut?
She'll reveal the winner on her blog!