Here at The Pink Heart Society we're shaking Thursdays up a little in the month of May - that's what happens when we all have time to think! So this month we're looking at some of the fun facts from Harlequin's 2007 Romance Report and next week we'll also be joining the madness that is Thursday Thirteens...
For those of you who might not know - every year Harlequin releases it's Romance Report with a wealth of survey's and fun facts about Romance in today's world... So we here at The Pink Heart Society thought we'd share some of the report with you and see what you think and if there's a little inspiration in there for you in either your own love life or in your writing...
Harlequin Survey Reveals Americans Ready For Romance Revolution
I Just Called To Say I Love You… But I Really Just Want To Have Sex...
Stevie Wonder may have been calling to say I love you, but the 2007 Harlequin Romance Report reveals that the intentions of Americans are far less honorable. According to a new survey from Harlequin, The Romance Revolution, a whopping 55% of American men and 41% of American women have said those three little words in the hopes that it would lead to sex.
“Many people perceive “I love you” as the secret password that gets them into the bedroom,” said Marleah Stout, Senior Public Relations Manager, Harlequin Enterprises Ltd., one of the world’s leading publishers of women’s fiction. “But telling someone you love them because you think that’s what they want to hear is not romantic – it’s clichéd and outdated, and these days romance is a top priority for Americans.”
This year’s Harlequin Romance Report survey (www.press.eHarlequin.com/), which polled more than 3,000 men and women across Canada and the U.S., discovered that the U.S. is a nation of romantics. Ninety-two percent of men and 94% of women consider themselves romantic and surprisingly, almost half of all men (45%) consider themselves hopeless romantics. While the majority of American men (64%) and women (72%) want more romance in their lives, the problem is that 72% don’t know how to get it, believing that television and movies set impossible romantic standards.
Much like the sexual revolution that liberalized sex and forced discussion about sexuality out of the bedroom and into the public domain, The Romance Revolution, the focus of this year’s Romance Report, is all about helping people get in touch with their inner romantic. The report also explores how romance has changed and where it is headed, identifies the barriers to romance and explores romance in its new domain – online.
“People want romance that is accessible and natural to them, one that avoids clichés and stereotyped expectations,” said Stout. “The Romance Revolution is all about feeling comfortable and confident. Romance isn’t necessarily grand romantic gestures. It can be picking up your partner’s favorite movie on the way home from work, sending someone a sweet text message or preparing a meal together while enjoying each other’s company – all simple actions that tell the special person in your life how you feel about them.”
The survey also revealed that more than 87% of Americans believe that men and women have different ideas about what romance should be. While men and women may not be seeing eye to eye when it comes to what is or is not considered romantic, they certainly agree on one thing – it’s cool to be romantic (86%).
Well we here at The Pink Heart Society certainly agree it's cool to be romantic!
So what kinds of things did they include in the romance report this year? Well... here's a few snippets for you:
Free to be me – Men and women both indicated that they wanted more romance in their lives, but they want a romance that is genuine, comfortable and often unconventional. Almost two thirds of men and women disagreed with the idea that everyone should get married at some point in their lives.
To err is human, to forgive divine - Nearly three-quarters of the men (74%) and women (71%) would forgive their significant other if they flirted with someone else, but men are more likely than women to forgive their partner for having sex with somebody else (20% men versus 12% women).
Well, I never! – More than half of the men polled (55%) have sent a sexually explicit e-mail, text message or instant message to someone. A quarter of men (25%) and just under a quarter of women (22%) have had a cyber-affair. Sixteen percent of men and women have broken up with someone by e-mail, text message or instant message.
And next week we'll be back with some of the International Survey Results... Can you be forgiven for flirting with someone else faster if you lived somewhere else? How romantic are people from country to country? Does 'I love you' as a fast-track to the bedroom differ depending on what country you're in? All important things to know we here at The Pink Heart Society feel... And as a writer, will some of the fun results of whats Hot and what's Not effect what will be going into your books this year???
So join us here every Thursday in May and we'll bring you the low down on
The Romance Revolution!